Ok, we all know the basics of how to make someone like us: we have to look good, be well groomed, well dressed, pleasant in conversation. We must be clever- this is very important, because if we are not clever nothing else will work long enough. Here is a person in front of you whom you like very much and want to be around, what can you do to make it work, to make it beautiful, interesting?
Take a mental inventory of a person you are trying to impress/ make fall in love with you. Pay attention to their clothes, their words, their body language, their actions. What kind of person is he/she? What do they want? What is missing in their life? The more detailed is your answer the better chances you have of making them fall in love. Know who you are dealing with before engaging in any kind of relationship. The information about who the person really is will not present itself unless you learn to observe and listen, let others talk and act, your job is to sit back, listen, watch and filter the information until you get a precise picture of what is going on and who is the person in front of you. The most important question you must answer: Is the person I am trying to impress/make fall in love cleverer than I am? I am not talking about the college education, or scientific background, I am talking about how transparent you are to the other person, how well they can read you, and how well they can use you without you knowing it. If you establish they are cleverer than you, which by the way very few of us can successfully do, your best bet is to stay away from them, you are just a lamb trying to get a wolf’s attention. You must find someone on your intelligence level or below.You should never attempt to seduce someone cleverer than you, you are putting yourself at a disadvantage, but what if you misperceived someone’s intelligence level and took someone cleverer than you for someone who is not? I’m sorry to say- you are going down. You have an impossible challenge in front of you- to impress someone, to offer useful, clever information, insight they don’t possess, offer them on a silver platter something they have never realized- in other words dazzle them with your wit and prospects. As you go about your business impressing them with your stupidity, you will be inadvertently tipping them off on how they can use you, not necessarily for sex, then easily dispose of you, and you will never see it coming. You must learn to read people, you must gauge correctly their level of intelligence. You have to play the game, you must make it interesting for them. You must have something to offer and it must be better than that offered by others.